Respect Afghan girls or you will lose them to the white guy.



Respect Afghan girls or you will lose them to the white guy.

KhandehRoh

12 Mar 2013 at 02:40
To my Afghan Brothers,

Do you want to find love? Do you want to be with the woman of your dreams? Do you want to be in a healthy relationship? More importantly do you want to be with a good Afghan girl who will be loyal to you and treat you like her prince?

Then you need to make some changes, FAST! Before all the Afghan girls get a clue and be smitten by the white gentleman that knew a little something called RESPECT.

That's right, Afghan guys have forgotten how to properly treat a lady. We do not want to be treated like a piece of meat. We do not want to be ignored when your guy friends are around. We do not want to be treated like our opinions don't matter. AND WE ESPECIALLY DO NOT WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE the 5 letter word that starts with W and ends with an E because you think that SEX is all we can offer you and nothing more.

Especially, if we are strong, confident, educated and independent women with a clean past. How dare you? Really? Did you think you could get away with that? Did you think we'd give you a lasting chance? Maybe you got past the gate buddy, but it takes a little more than that to keep us.

Take some lessons in etiquette, please...or hang out with some of your non-Afghan friends who can keep a girl, because no self-respecting Afghan girl will want a guy who does not know how to respect her.

Respect is inherent in our culture--shown to our parents at the highest level. Please carry this forward to your discussions with the next girl you meet.

If you are wondering why all the good girls are being taken by non-Afghan men, this is one of the reasons.

Until next time,

KhandehRoh
Edited by KhandehRoh 21 Mar 2013 at 02:43

Deleted Member

14 Mar 2013 at 12:54
Quote (KhandehRoh * Mar 12, 2013 2:40)

To my Afghan Brothers,

Do you want to find love? Do you want to be with the woman of your dreams? Do you want to be in a healthy relationship? More importantly do you want to be with a good Afghan girl who will be loyal to you and treat you like her prince?

Then you need to make some changes, FAST! Before all the Afghan girls get a clue and be smitten by the white gentleman that knew a little something called RESPECT.

That's right, Afghan guys have forgotten how to properly treat a lady. We do not want to be treated like a piece of meat. We do not want to be ignored when your guy friends are around. We do not want to be treated like our opinions don't matter. AND WE ESPECIALLY DO NOT WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE the 5 letter word that starts with W and ends with an E because you think that SEX is all we can offer you and nothing more. And did you just say "you'd do my cousin". Wow!

Especially, if we are strong, confident, educated and independent women with a clean past-unlike you. How dare you? Really? Did you think you could get away with that? Did you think we'd give you a lasting chance? Maybe you got past the gate buddy, but it takes a little more than that to keep us.

Take some lessons in etiquette, please...or hang out with some of your non-Afghan friends who can keep a girl, because no self-respecting Afghan girl will want a guy who does not know how to respect her.

Respect is inherent in our culture--shown to our parents at the highest level. Please carry this forward to your discussions with the next girl you meet.

If you are wondering why all the good girls are being taken by non-Afghan men, this is one of the reasons.

Until next time,

KhandehRoh


Some answer from your brother regarding your good advise i think if write here it take too much time and space so lets make it short and easy to understand for everyone since we all know and have experience about our afghan girls its not easy to convince them and yeah they we have never seen them honest enough to start anything .

Wdude

12 Oct 2013 at 13:01
lmfao@ you will lose them to white guys...

honey, if you're tempted to go after white guys, go right ahead.... don't look for an excuse to do so.

Girls (afghan or non-afghan) aren't anyone's property to lose anyway.

HONEST777

15 Oct 2013 at 16:21
I doubt white guys treat ladies better than educated Afghan guys. as far as I know, and I do have some white friend, they are after sex in a girl. we are more concerned with our reputation than white guys.

EMAL JAN

6 Nov 2013 at 21:44
KhandehRoh: Most of you girls who owned western culture and tradition will have same problem as you did in the past with an Afghan boy.

A true Afghan who respect his/her religion, culture and fame of her/his tradition will kick da hack out of a white/black person like you women did for example, Azita Ghanizadeh, Halima Rashid or Mezhgan Husseini who are after fame and money, but a true Afghan stays with his/her culture/tradition/religion not money!

People are getting so cheap these days that they even forget who they are, where they come from and how their life would it be if they were born/lived inside Afghanistan.

A great example is: If you purchase a cheap product and after some days its gone, your fake face will be same as Mezghan Husseini or Bahara Golestini (glamourmodel) for the future of our beloved country. You are accepted in the society you live in but im sure you won't be accepted in where you were roots are from.

I know it's their personal life, but if someone really respect his/her culture he/she would have never do wrong things.

Lose them to white guys? Im sure you are already loose. Stop promoting your love with a white guy! When you choose a white guy, then don't look but in your life that where you belong to, your religion and culture. You are not that person anymore.

Different between an Afghan and a white guy? You are 100% nude free with 0% respect for your religion, culture and tradition but with an Afghan guy who always protect you the way he was taught to protect. A white boy kicks you out, but an Afghan guy stays with you and solve your problem.


I know loads of Afghan girls married to german, american, canadian or bla bla other donkies, but remember no matter how much these white guys show you one moment, week or yrs of love it won't compare to an enternity love of a TRUE AFGHAN GUY who was taught to love his partner.


Most people jump on a bed with a white guy and starts dating, because he is open minded and bla bla...but the future is important. Kids. Are they gonna be afghan guys or David, Jack bla bla bla???? Girls stop blaming guys for doing wrong, we have an expression in Afghanistan.

Sada az yak dest namibraya, dang dang, har doima yak rang.

I personally would never and ever marry a white girl in my life, no matter if there are no more women in this world than white girls. They are all loose, 10 handed used people, no culture, no tradition and who the hell going to talk to her on her mother language the rest of my life? Are you crazy??? Maybe some people accept this but this is far away from me and its a lifetime challenge and would never happen too me.

What is more important for me is family, my culture no matter how you describe an afghan culture, a true long lasting culture and tradition, i still love that country, that culture that we given to us as a gift and we as a young generation have to take that with us forward in order to learn the world that we are a true cultural people.

Beating women, disrespecting of girls/women or bla bla is not a part of Afghan culture, its basically added to our culture by the european/americans not by a true brave Afghan.



Remember: If you color your bloody hair to blonde, if you change your mind and jump into bed with a white guy, if you change your name, if you forget your identity, KEEEP in mind that you are still an Afghan.

Be Afghan!
Be with Afghan!
Power up our beautiful culture!
Share our beautiful tradition with the world to show how strong we are!
Keep your identity!


PS: Afghan guys DO RESPECT AFGHAN WOMEN, BUT YOU DISRESPECT YOURSELF MOVING WITH A NON-AFGHAN!

LaMaestra

8 Jan 2014 at 18:55
What I think this member is trying to say is the following and please, do not take any of this personally.....

Many Afghan girls seek a man for 1 purpose: love with the guarantee of marriage in the future with this person. Many Afghan guys don't seem to take this topic seriously. For us girls, usually by age 25ish we tend to start becoming more serious about our lives... our education is completed (or nearing completion) and we are at the point in which we have enjoyed the single life (going out with our friends, traveling with friends, family, cousins, attending concerts, etc) and we want to find a nice guy to settle down with to share our lives with him and someday start a family with him.
The problem is:
A) Guys IN GENERAL (not just Afghan guys) do not want to settle or think about settling at age 25, 26, etc like how women do. Usually by age 30, 31, 32 they may want to start the search for a nice girl. So for them, they think "Oh hey, let me just date this Afghan girl.... enjoy the dating scene before I settle down" meanwhile Afghan girls who do date guys already feel confident and ready enough to want a serious relationship and settle down. It's basically a mentality thing. No offense to you guys, but you do not mature util the age of 30. It's a universal human nature rule. This now leads to my second point.

B) You guys are not psychologically prepared and ready to take on life as women are because women have been known to be MUCH more responsible in life (we are the ones who take care of the house, we are the ones who cook, clean, care for our younger siblings, etc).... psychologically a woman is ready and mature enough whereas a man's role in society has been labeled as the "breadwinner".... he goes to work and comes home to eat and sleep. End of story. He does not know the responsibilities in life as women do. Now I"m not saying ALL men are like this, BUT a majority are.

C) Another reason why this thread was created is because guys tend to think they can get any girl at anytime because scientifically, a man can be a father at any age. You can be 90 yrs old and still be able to produce a baby whereas women have until age 35. By that age, it is much harder for a woman to conceive and most, if not all, woman would like to be mothers before 35. Which again leads back to my previous points.

The other BIG thing is... and this person does have a good point... don't disrespect an Afghan girl. If you want to be serious and want to start a relationship with her and see yourself with her forever then treat her as though she is already your wife. Introduce her to your friends and say "She's the one"... Make your friends see why she's important to you. Don't ignore her because then girls will think "I'm just another girl he's gonna date and leave for someone else".... you guys don't wanna be labeled as a player, do you? If you aren't serious about a relationship or settling, then don't date an Afghan girl.

Remember: a man's reputation does not get ruin but a woman's does. A man can date as many women as he wants and society will not label him as a whore... but if a woman does it, she's labeled as a whore or a slut. Afghan girls don't want to be labeled whores or sluts (obviously) so they expect that Afghan guys who do date them will stay with them forever. They don't want to be known as "Ohhhh, HER. The one who dated X, Y, and Z... she's a whore. She will date anyone".... because that's not the girl's fault. It is the guy's fault. Why date her if you aren't serious about settling with her meanwhile she is?

Now I'm sure this person was exaggerating when she claimed that Afghan girls will eventually turn to non-Afghan guys and be with them. I am not taking her side nor am I taking an Afghan guy's side but if she feels that Afghan guys don't take relationships seriously then it will eventually come to this where ALL Afghan girls will say "You know what? Forget Afghan guys... all they do is play with us like we are dolls. If they don't want to settle, then don't waste our time. We will just go for that other guy... at least he is serious".... so it's not the girl's fault for becoming TEMPTED. Temptation DOES NOT mean she will in fact do it. If you guys don't want this to happen to a girl.... then don't do something and be responsible for it.

Finally, just food for thought:

Imagine this was your sister.... and your sister is telling you "Oh... I've been dating X and he's just not serious about marriage. All he wanted to do was date me and he just dumped me.".... how would you feel if a guy used your sister like that? You'd want to tear him apart and make sure NO OTHER GUY does this to her, correct? You don't want to see your sister be used like a doll and then tossed away like she isn't special, right? That's what these girls' brothers may think of you. They may find out you dated their sister and suddenly out of nowhere dumped them because your pleasure and satisfaction was over and it was time to move on to someone else.... and they'll say "That guy is a coward for doing this to you! I'll kill him!".... I know you would definitely say these words.. maybe some girl's brother whom you are seeing is saying this about you right now.... how does that make you feel?

So guys.... please just really think about what you want in life before dating an Afghan girl. If you are ABSOLUTELY serious about marriage... then make it work and you date her and propose. If you are just dating and want nothing but fun.... then don't date an Afghan girl and give her some sort of hope because it's only going to make everything so much worse.

I hope this opens up some minds and hopefully there is some clarification. Good luck to all of you on your search and may you all find someone who treats you with the utmost respect and loves you so much with all their hearts.


Quote (KhandehRoh * Mar 12, 2013 2:40)

To my Afghan Brothers,

Do you want to find love? Do you want to be with the woman of your dreams? Do you want to be in a healthy relationship? More importantly do you want to be with a good Afghan girl who will be loyal to you and treat you like her prince?

Then you need to make some changes, FAST! Before all the Afghan girls get a clue and be smitten by the white gentleman that knew a little something called RESPECT.

That's right, Afghan guys have forgotten how to properly treat a lady. We do not want to be treated like a piece of meat. We do not want to be ignored when your guy friends are around. We do not want to be treated like our opinions don't matter. AND WE ESPECIALLY DO NOT WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE the 5 letter word that starts with W and ends with an E because you think that SEX is all we can offer you and nothing more.

Especially, if we are strong, confident, educated and independent women with a clean past. How dare you? Really? Did you think you could get away with that? Did you think we'd give you a lasting chance? Maybe you got past the gate buddy, but it takes a little more than that to keep us.

Take some lessons in etiquette, please...or hang out with some of your non-Afghan friends who can keep a girl, because no self-respecting Afghan girl will want a guy who does not know how to respect her.

Respect is inherent in our culture--shown to our parents at the highest level. Please carry this forward to your discussions with the next girl you meet.

If you are wondering why all the good girls are being taken by non-Afghan men, this is one of the reasons.

Until next time,

KhandehRoh

TheGutterPoet

27 Feb 2014 at 07:52
Most of the blabber you piled up here has got nothing to do with the original post... in which the writer claims she supposedly gets more respect from white dudes. Speaks of her admiration for how white guys treat women right.. ..which is a very buffoonish claim.

I don't know where she's been living in Canada to believe that White guys don't treat women like a piece of meat.. lol.. Whereas in reality a large number of them have spent a good part of their life in bars and clubs picking up girls for one-night stands and toss them the next day like a piece of garbage, let alone meat!..

So for a moment to ignore her delusional blabber, what you've come up with to supposedly back her outlandish claims is a) irrelevant (THE KEY WORD IRRELAVENT) to what she's talking about b) is a load of crock. For you to sit there and say "psychologically" women more mature. And to say a man’s life encompasses of working, eating, sleeping and nothing more.. Where and who was teaching you “psychology”? Throwing a supposedly multi-syllable jargon doesn’t necessarily it all of a sudden a valid point. It has got nothing to do with maturity should any woman harbor the desire to procreate as fast as she can. It could be merely because her biological clock is ticking.
AGAIN to sum it up for you, the load of crock you’ve come up with is IRRELEVANT to the original post..
As for men respecting women or vice versa, that’s a given, regardless of what race they belong to, Afghan or non-Afghan!

Quote (LaMaestra * Jan 8, 2014 18:55)

What I think this member is trying to say is the following and please, do not take any of this personally.....

Many Afghan girls seek a man for 1 purpose: love with the guarantee of marriage in the future with this person. Many Afghan guys don't seem to take this topic seriously. For us girls, usually by age 25ish we tend to start becoming more serious about our lives... our education is completed (or nearing completion) and we are at the point in which we have enjoyed the single life (going out with our friends, traveling with friends, family, cousins, attending concerts, etc) and we want to find a nice guy to settle down with to share our lives with him and someday start a family with him.
The problem is:
A) Guys IN GENERAL (not just Afghan guys) do not want to settle or think about settling at age 25, 26, etc like how women do. Usually by age 30, 31, 32 they may want to start the search for a nice girl. So for them, they think "Oh hey, let me just date this Afghan girl.... enjoy the dating scene before I settle down" meanwhile Afghan girls who do date guys already feel confident and ready enough to want a serious relationship and settle down. It's basically a mentality thing. No offense to you guys, but you do not mature util the age of 30. It's a universal human nature rule. This now leads to my second point.

B) You guys are not psychologically prepared and ready to take on life as women are because women have been known to be MUCH more responsible in life (we are the ones who take care of the house, we are the ones who cook, clean, care for our younger siblings, etc).... psychologically a woman is ready and mature enough whereas a man's role in society has been labeled as the "breadwinner".... he goes to work and comes home to eat and sleep. End of story. He does not know the responsibilities in life as women do. Now I"m not saying ALL men are like this, BUT a majority are.

C) Another reason why this thread was created is because guys tend to think they can get any girl at anytime because scientifically, a man can be a father at any age. You can be 90 yrs old and still be able to produce a baby whereas women have until age 35. By that age, it is much harder for a woman to conceive and most, if not all, woman would like to be mothers before 35. Which again leads back to my previous points.

The other BIG thing is... and this person does have a good point... don't disrespect an Afghan girl. If you want to be serious and want to start a relationship with her and see yourself with her forever then treat her as though she is already your wife. Introduce her to your friends and say "She's the one"... Make your friends see why she's important to you. Don't ignore her because then girls will think "I'm just another girl he's gonna date and leave for someone else".... you guys don't wanna be labeled as a player, do you? If you aren't serious about a relationship or settling, then don't date an Afghan girl.

Remember: a man's reputation does not get ruin but a woman's does. A man can date as many women as he wants and society will not label him as a whore... but if a woman does it, she's labeled as a whore or a slut. Afghan girls don't want to be labeled whores or sluts (obviously) so they expect that Afghan guys who do date them will stay with them forever. They don't want to be known as "Ohhhh, HER. The one who dated X, Y, and Z... she's a whore. She will date anyone".... because that's not the girl's fault. It is the guy's fault. Why date her if you aren't serious about settling with her meanwhile she is?

Now I'm sure this person was exaggerating when she claimed that Afghan girls will eventually turn to non-Afghan guys and be with them. I am not taking her side nor am I taking an Afghan guy's side but if she feels that Afghan guys don't take relationships seriously then it will eventually come to this where ALL Afghan girls will say "You know what? Forget Afghan guys... all they do is play with us like we are dolls. If they don't want to settle, then don't waste our time. We will just go for that other guy... at least he is serious".... so it's not the girl's fault for becoming TEMPTED. Temptation DOES NOT mean she will in fact do it. If you guys don't want this to happen to a girl.... then don't do something and be responsible for it.

Finally, just food for thought:

Imagine this was your sister.... and your sister is telling you "Oh... I've been dating X and he's just not serious about marriage. All he wanted to do was date me and he just dumped me.".... how would you feel if a guy used your sister like that? You'd want to tear him apart and make sure NO OTHER GUY does this to her, correct? You don't want to see your sister be used like a doll and then tossed away like she isn't special, right? That's what these girls' brothers may think of you. They may find out you dated their sister and suddenly out of nowhere dumped them because your pleasure and satisfaction was over and it was time to move on to someone else.... and they'll say "That guy is a coward for doing this to you! I'll kill him!".... I know you would definitely say these words.. maybe some girl's brother whom you are seeing is saying this about you right now.... how does that make you feel?

So guys.... please just really think about what you want in life before dating an Afghan girl. If you are ABSOLUTELY serious about marriage... then make it work and you date her and propose. If you are just dating and want nothing but fun.... then don't date an Afghan girl and give her some sort of hope because it's only going to make everything so much worse.

I hope this opens up some minds and hopefully there is some clarification. Good luck to all of you on your search and may you all find someone who treats you with the utmost respect and loves you so much with all their hearts.


Quote (KhandehRoh * Mar 12, 2013 2:40)

To my Afghan Brothers,

Do you want to find love? Do you want to be with the woman of your dreams? Do you want to be in a healthy relationship? More importantly do you want to be with a good Afghan girl who will be loyal to you and treat you like her prince?

Then you need to make some changes, FAST! Before all the Afghan girls get a clue and be smitten by the white gentleman that knew a little something called RESPECT.

That's right, Afghan guys have forgotten how to properly treat a lady. We do not want to be treated like a piece of meat. We do not want to be ignored when your guy friends are around. We do not want to be treated like our opinions don't matter. AND WE ESPECIALLY DO NOT WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE the 5 letter word that starts with W and ends with an E because you think that SEX is all we can offer you and nothing more.

Especially, if we are strong, confident, educated and independent women with a clean past. How dare you? Really? Did you think you could get away with that? Did you think we'd give you a lasting chance? Maybe you got past the gate buddy, but it takes a little more than that to keep us.

Take some lessons in etiquette, please...or hang out with some of your non-Afghan friends who can keep a girl, because no self-respecting Afghan girl will want a guy who does not know how to respect her.

Respect is inherent in our culture--shown to our parents at the highest level. Please carry this forward to your discussions with the next girl you meet.

If you are wondering why all the good girls are being taken by non-Afghan men, this is one of the reasons.

Until next time,

KhandehRoh

PATIENCEMR

12 Jul 2014 at 16:41
Assalaamu Alaikum and Ramadan Kareem to everyone!
I read parts of the posts and will try and keep my post short but figured I can share my perspective.
1. There are good and bad everywhere. For example my family is well educated and yet also we enjoy being muslims, prayer, fast etc. Surprise surprise but you can do both. All siblings grew up in US but no one ever dated and everyone except me are married and doing well alhamdulillah.

2. American culture (lived in US for 32 years now in many parts of the US) teaches to date and be with a girl from around 5th grade. I don't think I would call this respect for girls. American culture says to sleep with the girl and as Beyonce says if you like it then put a ring on it but not before that. We Afghans (that have family and islamic values) rather make decisions based on islam, education, family rather than my white friends that talk about how her azz is nice so she is a keeper unlike the last 20.

3. Girls these days think they are guys. For example if you ask my mom why she married my dad...mom said he was smart, educated, good muslim, and was going to be a father. But I am almost 40 now and no Afghan girl has ever said that to me and no girl here has those things in there profile. They talk about things that every human on the planet seeks but not the things that make us different and come to this site. Being Afghan being MUSLIM, prayer, fasts, value education, and family.

In the 15 years I have wanted to get married to someone SIMILAR to me and MY FAMILY, I have ran into only a handful and out of those handful, I have only had the opportunity to meet one family. None of the other families even met me or done research to figure it out so most likely made decisions on none of the important criteria for ever lasting love and family.

May Allah help us be our best in this life leading us to Jannah in the next life. By the way if anyone wants to email and discuss, patiencemr at #censored#. Wish everyone the best!

Deleted Member

1 Nov 2015 at 08:20
Quote (KhandehRoh * Mar 12, 2013 2:40)

To my Afghan Brothers,

Do you want to find love? Do you want to be with the woman of your dreams? Do you want to be in a healthy relationship? More importantly do you want to be with a good Afghan girl who will be loyal to you and treat you like her prince?

Then you need to make some changes, FAST! Before all the Afghan girls get a clue and be smitten by the white gentleman that knew a little something called RESPECT.

That's right, Afghan guys have forgotten how to properly treat a lady. We do not want to be treated like a piece of meat. We do not want to be ignored when your guy friends are around. We do not want to be treated like our opinions don't matter. AND WE ESPECIALLY DO NOT WANT TO BE TREATED LIKE the 5 letter word that starts with W and ends with an E because you think that SEX is all we can offer you and nothing more.

Especially, if we are strong, confident, educated and independent women with a clean past. How dare you? Really? Did you think you could get away with that? Did you think we'd give you a lasting chance? Maybe you got past the gate buddy, but it takes a little more than that to keep us.

Take some lessons in etiquette, please...or hang out with some of your non-Afghan friends who can keep a girl, because no self-respecting Afghan girl will want a guy who does not know how to respect her.

Respect is inherent in our culture--shown to our parents at the highest level. Please carry this forward to your discussions with the next girl you meet.

If you are wondering why all the good girls are being taken by non-Afghan men, this is one of the reasons.

Until next time,

KhandehRoh



Lmao is that why so many are 30-35 and are single? The epidemic is caused by your self righteous attitude causing alot of afghan gentleman to settle down with non afghan women.

desperadoo

5 Nov 2015 at 04:31
you earn respect not get it by force
if you are a decent lady with a decent character people will respect you besides there is more girls in this world for us boys than there are girls wether it is white girl or afghan so you must learn how to respect a man because he will become your husband.