| About myself |
I feel, as you grow older, your preferences change dramatically. The person I was at 18 is long gone. Today, I am a mix of my teen years and of my blessed 20-something years. I’ve discovered that I’m not trapped or a damsel in distress. I am an intelligent, independent, genuine, whole-some, down to earth kind of gal. I’ve learned that there is no “prince charming” or the “perfect man”, but rather someone who has faults and insecurities (which he’ll never acknowledge). Someone who neither I nor another woman will be able to change, who is content with the way he is. However, that does not excuse him from breaking any mutual promises that we’ve made and based our relationship on. He’s going to capture my heart, and impress my soul- he’s going be the man I’m going to fall head over heels in love with Insha’Allah- whomever and wherever he may be. My arbitrary preferences have taught me-- people do not change. The situations we’re in, the timing and the world will drastically change - but people remain the same. Most Individuals might adapt or gradually assimilate into new settings, perceptions and adventures- but at the end of the day, we tightly clutch onto who we are within. Relationships/Marriages are enormous compromises- there is no more “me” but rather a “we”. Following the theme of relationships, I cannot stress enough on how much one needs to know what they want in life before going into incredibly serious situation, where each spouse has a different outlook/belief of what marriage/children/work/home life is hypothetically to be like. Find out and listen to what your other half desires before you make any decisions. Life is not perfect and bad things happen to the best of us. We all have false hopes/promises of relationships- darn all those Disney movies and Romantic Comedies. <br><br>Adding onto the morsel on relationships, always remember that you have Allah (swt) with you. Believe that sometimes things happen for a reason, you might not know of it today- but somewhere done the line it’ll make sense and bring delight and serenity into your heart. <br><br>Now that I indulged you into the realm of my insight of relationships- I shall at least incorporate a bit about myself. I’ve been blessed Alhmadulilah-I’m currently working with something that I consider absolutely worthwhile, and I’m in the process of applying to law school. I love traveling- I can’t wait to embark on adventures to South America, Africa, the Middle East and Europe Insha’Allah. I love going to new places, meeting new faces, and absorbing the society around me. I’m fascinated by Islam, philosophy, photography, literature from around the world, political science, dance, sociology, writing, psychology, and what the world has to offer me. I’m not being bitter or cynical when it comes to relationships but at the same time I’m not naive. Always strive to be a better person, to learn from past mistakes/experiences and that at the end of the day- strive for Allah (swt)’s approval. Set your own rules in life, and don’t ever live vicariously through others. <br><br>Remind yourself that- Someday everything will all make perfect sense. So for now, laugh at the confusion, smile through the tears, and keep reminding yourself that everything happens for a reason. <br><br><br>
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